Monday, April 25, 2011

National Infertility Awareness Week - Bust a Myth

Hello everyone.  I would like to take just a quick minute of your time to bust an infertility myth that has bothered me for years.  There are many things that I have heard over the years (and still today) that bother me but one of the most annoying (in my life) is when I hear that women are just waiting too long to try and have babies.  If women would get married younger and not worry about their careers so much, then they wouldn't have to worry about conceiving a baby.  By waiting to get married and then waiting even longer to start a family, it's no wonder they are infertile.

That is total BS.

Infertility strikes many women for many different reasons at many different ages.  I, for one, started trying to have a baby when I was 24.  Got that?  24!  I wanted to be a young mom.  I wanted to be done having any kids I was going to have well before I turned 30.  Here I am about to turn 35 (eek!) and I'm STILL trying.  Infertility does not care how old we are.  Is there truth to the fact that as a woman ages her chances of conceiving decline with each passing year?  Absolutely.  However, infertility is a diseaseDecreased fertility due to age is totally different.

I may have been 24 when I started trying but apparently my eggs are about 20 years older.  I had great looking charts each month....nice low temps then a spike after ovulation...several days of ewcm leading up to ovulation and a cycle that ran 28 days.  It doesn't get better than that, right?  Wrong.  Those eggs that I was ovulating were obviously no good.  Sometimes a woman's body is not her friend.  Sometimes we are deprived of the one privilege that eludes us, being able to conceive and carry a baby to term.

Many other diseases do not discriminate by age...neither does Infertility.  It can strike a 40-year-old just as it can strike an unsuspecting 24-year-old.  Please do not tell me that I'm having problems or that "all these women that think they can have a career AND a family should have placed more priority on the family because now it's too late" that we started trying too late.  Infertility is a real disease that can enter the lives of anyone at any given time.


April said...

Thanks for posting this! It helped give me the guts to post one on my blog too! Praying for you in the coming weeks!!

BrokenOven said...

Well said!! :)

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Alex said...

This is a great post! Like you, I'm in my mid-30's now, but I first started TTC in my 20's, unsuccessfully... It can happen to any of us!

Summastarlet said...

Happy ICLW!

Well written!!!

I started TTC when I was 24 and never expected to still be on this road almost 2 years later. I think that when you are young you just expect it to happen quickly. No such luck for all of us!

Wishing you the best of luck with your journey. I do hope that you get to hold your baby in your arms someday soon. xx

Kim said...

Hi Teejay!

Excellent job busting this myth! I think it is SO wonderful that so many of us are out there speaking our minds this week... our voices make a difference. I started TTC at 21 years old and I am now 30 and still childless. Age had nothing to do with it... it was entirely physical.

Best wishes to you!

Kim @ The Ladies in Waiting Book Club

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