Thursday, March 3, 2011

Things I Have Learned Recently

- it's better (for me) to travel with just my husband and not another couple.  It's too difficult to figure out what everyone wants to do and keep everyone happy.  Especially when, in my opinion, there should be some alone time for each couple.  We traveled to Atlantic City with our neighbors.  It was fine, but not great.  I told BJ that we need a real vacation.

- above mentioned neighbor never ceases to surprise me with her parenting ways.  All of her kids are in their early 20's.  She said that the first night she had her son at home (her first born) she woke up at every noise he made and so she decided that it was time for him to sleep in his own room.  I know there are plenty of parents that do this and I don't judge you at all.  The tone of her voice was what threw me for a loop.  It was as if her sleep were more important than making sure her kid was ok.  She didn't even have a monitor to listen to him...she said if SIDS is going to happen it's going to happen no matter where they sleep.  While this may be true, I have heard and read that listening to mom and/or dad breath can help "remind" the infant to keep breathing.  Maybe I'm being too hard on her, after all, she was not an infertile so maybe the panic of maybe-my-happiness-will-be-taken-away-from-me-if-I-don't-guard-it-to-the-fullest-extent-possible did not plague her every thought.

- I really hate winter.  We have had 3 wonderful days (60's to near 70's) scattered over the last 2 1/2 weeks and then it jumps right back into the 30's.  Yuck.  I'm so over Winter.

- I like going to a comedy show with my husband.  We saw a show in Atlantic City and we both laughed a lot.  It was the best thing we did.

- the Little Guy's mother needs a lesson in paying attention.  We had him last Thursday night and then not again until last night because of our trip.  He took a shower yesterday morning because she forgot that he hadn't had a shower since last Thursday.  Disgusting.

- it's nice not peeing on opk's and taking my temperature.  And to tell you the truth, it has helped me to relax a bit.  I know that the IVF is around the corner so I'm not going to stress about opk's right now.  And I will let you in on a secret...I don't even know what cycle day I'm on.  Can you believe that?  That hasn't happened in, well, years.

- while it may seem like a good idea to plan a trip when your boss is going to be out of town, don't be surprised if everything changes while you are the out of town boss was really in town because the meeting was moved locally.  My boss is retiring, I think I've mentioned that before, and her end date was pretty open ended....late March, early April.  That gave me time to fit in my IVF with lots of understanding because she, too, was an infertile.  Well, she was given her end date while I was out of town...March 18.  Egads!  That's only 2 weeks away...and well before my IVF!  Our 2nd in command is being named acting director and I have no idea what that means for me.  He's a man...a man that practically lives at work and thinks everyone else should too.  I really hope this doesn't add a myriad of stressors (I don't think that's a word) to my IVF cycle.

- I love my iPhone...I was able to read quite a few blog posts while I was away and that helped me to keep up with all my bloggy buddies.  I didn't have a chance to comment but I was reading!

- I'm really bummed about my boss leaving.  I've been on the verge of tears since I learned her actual departure date.  I've only ever had one boss in the last (almost) 11 years...this is going to be very tough on me.

- I need to make a real commitment to fitness.  I'm hating my jiggling body and now is the perfect time to try and lose a few pounds and tone up a little bit before the IVF.  As we all know, those meds can really mess with a girl's body.

Those are just some of the things I've learned recently.  I'm sure there are more but those are the standouts.  I hope everyone is having a good week.


Jenn said...

It's amazing how after a single event we can say 'yes, we need to do that more, it was fun', or 'nope, never again'! I alwasy struggle with sticking to my decisions (usually doing stuff I don't want to do again- like hosting my sister in law and her scary husband!)

Amanda said...

Let it all out :) Sounds like you have a lot going on lately, so the fact that you've managed to relax and your cycle (and gasp, your cycle DAY) is a huge step.

Sorry to hear about your boss...

someday-soon said...

Wow, that an impressive list. I'm not into going on vacation with others either, so much more relaxing when it's only me and my DH.

Parenting is such an individual thing but I would have probably felt the same way about your friends comments. We moved our LO out of our room at 3 months and I swear I watched our video monitor for hours every night for months and I listened so hard for her breathing and the angel care monitor. To each their own I guess...

Work changes are hard and the timing with IVF isn't wonderful but I'm hoping your new boss will be good too. So hard to say goodbye to people we've worked with for so long...hope you can do something nice with your boss, like a lunch or something, before she leaves.

Good for you for not even knowing what CD it is! Enjoy focusing on working out, I did that for the 12 weeks I was doing DHEA treatment before IVF and it was fantastic =)

Anonymous said...

I would have been a little taken aback at a comment like that, too. I was just reading about the baby responding to mama's breathing stuff in the Womanly Art of Breastfeeding. Very cool!
I think the western world is the first to separate babies from their moms - most other women in the world sleep with their babies. Our way of doing things is a relatively new phenomenon. I'm not planning on having our baby too far from me for a while, that's for sure :). I'm sure we'll know the right time for a crib in a separate room when it comes, but until then he/she will be as close to me as possible!
I'm sorry to hear your very understanding boss is leaving so soon! I really hope your new boss will cut you some slack - you never know, he might have some experience with IF himself (it could happen, right?).
What a freeing feeling not even knowing/caring what cd you're on! That's great! I'm still temping (so I know when to take the prog.) but I couldn't tell you what day exactly I'm on lately - just before/after ovlution, lol. It is nice to have something else to focus on for a change!
And EWWWW about LG's mom not making sure he showers. Wow.

Alex said...

What a great list! I love that you don't know what CD it is - that has to feel like vacation itself! I'm so proud of you for giving yourself a bit of a break before starting IVF.

Good luck transitioning to the new boss. I know things like that can be very stressful!!!