Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Sharing

I think I have mentioned this before but just in case anyone is wondering, I do not share well. What’s mine is pretty much mine and I don’t like to give it up...in any way shape or form. This does not include things like trying my dinner at a restaurant, sharing the covers or sharing a bottle of water with my husband. It’s more on a larger scale (or at least that is what I tell myself). Things like the candy in MY Easter basket is mine, right? Same goes with any present that I was given...it’s MINE. It sounds terrible and I’ve gotten better but I still don’t like to share. I hate it when someone sits at my desk on a day when I’m out; things like that.


When I was growing up I had a little brother that was 8 years younger than me. I think this is where my sharing issue comes from. I didn’t want him in my room because he would touch my stuff and it would end up broken or messed up or something. Not that I didn’t love my little brother or like to be around him, he was a toddler and he messed things up and I didn’t like it. My last post let you know how I love my things and how I like to take care of them and be careful with them. My little brother...not so much. I can almost always tell when something of mine has been moved; whether it’s on my desk at work or somewhere at home...If it’s not where I left it or where I think it should be, look out. I am going somewhere with this, thank you for your patience.

It’s so hard to share the Little Guy. I know I’ve been over this 100 times but sometimes the sharing really gets to me. He played in the Little League championship game last night (against his cousin) and they won! It was great. During the last few games of the season and through the playoffs (last night was game 3 of the playoffs) I have been sitting with another mom (the coach’s wife) and chatting and getting to know her better. I really like her. She’s my age, she’s a school nurse and she doesn’t take any crap from her kids or anyone else’s kids. She’s very into sports and that is enough for me to like her right there. We have been stressing together and cheering together and just basically being the CMS (Crazy Mom Section) at these last few games. Before sitting with her I would sit either by myself behind the backstop (I like to see if the pitches are really strikes :-) ) or with Other Woman (Little Guy’s mom). It’s been fine...until I started sitting with Jenny (Coach’s wife). She makes the games more fun because I have someone that is really paying attention with me and we are trying to calm each other’s nerves when one of our boys are either pitching or up to bat (she has 2 boys on the team).

At last night’s game, Other Woman sat with us. Not a big deal. The louder we all could be the better...the more exciting the game would be. We even had signs that another parent printed up. The LG hit a double off his cousin and subsequently got 2 RBI’s...I went nuts! He hasn’t had a great hit in quite a few games and he was due. The chatting and cheering continued and then the game was over. It was OW’s night to have the LG and the team was going to get ice cream afterward. BJ was starving and so was I as there is no time for dinner until after the game so I hadn’t eaten since lunch and it was almost 8:00. OW took LG to join the team. I was disappointed but it was fine. Until this morning.

I received an e-mail from OW asking for Jenny’s e-mail address. They got to talking at the ice cream place and meant to exchange addresses but forgot. I know this sounds petty and totally like Jr. High, but dammit, can’t I even have a “mom” friend without having to share her, too? I am not friends with any of the LG’s friends’ mothers and this was my chance, my IN...And now it’s time for OW to swoop in and take it from me. She knows a lot of the parents because she is able to go to the functions at the school during the day and she goes to his classroom for special events. She should, she’s his mother. Here was my chance...Jenny lives in our neighborhood so she’s just up the street...it was perfect. I could have a “mom” friend and we could get the boys together and hang out every now and then. Like I said, I know it’s petty and pathetic. I’m a grown up and I should stop acting so childish, but I can’t help it. I actually almost started crying when I read her request this morning. Can’t I just have anything that is just mine anymore? Do I have to share everything that deals with the LG? And now for the most childish statement out there...It’s just not fair.

I’m as petty as they get today and I just don’t care.

9 comments:

A said...

oh yuck. that really stinks. (hug) (i don't even think you're being petty- making friends since we moved to our town has been more difficult than i expected, and if i'd made a friend and then someone swooped in and kicked me down a notch, i'd be really upset, too.)

Mommy-In-Waiting said...

You are deffinetly not being petty, I would feel the exact same way. It isn't fair and I'm sorry OW is being like that. I'm sure she means well, but ugh.

Rebecca said...

I think that there is nothing wrong with wanting to keep something or someone as yours alone. I feel the same and often don't want to share all my stuff or close personal friends either.

suchagoodegg said...

I think this is normal, not petty. You are allowed to have some things that are sacred to you and you alone. And with all of the complicated feelings and interactions and familial relationships surrounding the LG, it makes perfect sense that having a special Mom friend just of your own = just what the doctor ordered. Big hugs to you sweet friend. xoxo

PS Go LG on the big clutch hit!!! That must've been a really awesome moment. I know you love him so much.

Anonymous said...

i would feel the same way-are you going to give her the email address? i would give her the wrong one by a couple of letters, that way it wouldnt look like you did it on purpose if she ever tried to find out. i'm petty too...

mommyodyssey said...

I totally get it. You're not being petty, your feelings make perfect sense. But remember this doesn't cancel you out with this woman. You can still make an effort and form a friendship, and of course, prove to her that you're 100 times cooler than OW. Just sayin' :-)

Nanci said...

You are far from petty. Totally natural to want something of your own and not share. I am the same way. I would give OW an incorrect email address. ;)

someday-soon said...

I agree it's not petty...it's human nature =) I hope you still get a chance to get together with Jenny and the kids and do some fun things!

C said...

I would absolutely feel the same way.

((HUGS))