Friday, September 14, 2012

Sweet, Sweet Moment


BJ has been trying to feel baby girl kicking for over 2 weeks now.   I had my laptop on my lap the other day and she kicked really hard and I jumped up and moved over to his side of the couch and grabbed his hand to put it on my belly.  Well of course I freaked him out because he didn’t know what was happening until it was too late.  Wouldn’t you know she didn’t kick that hard again?  BJ said I scared her when I jumped up, which I probably did.  There have been quite a few times that she’s kicked but he just can’t feel it.  He has pretty tough hands and I think that has been part of the issue.  He barely feels it when the cat bites him while a bite that hard would almost draw blood from my hands.

Last night we were on the couch and I told him to come over to my side because she was kicking.  He laid his hand across my belly and we waited.  I told him to put some pressure with his fingertips because it’s easier to feel when you are also pushing from the outside.  She kicked and I said, “Did you feel that??” He said, “I felt something!”  And he looked at me and his eyes were all aglow.  Then she kicked again and he felt it again.  We were both laughing at this point.  She seemed to settle down after that so the show was over unfortunately.  Then he leaned over and kissed my belly and said “that’s a good girl, kicking so daddy can feel you.”  My heart melted.  I was so happy he was finally able to feel her move.  I know that as she grows it will get easier and easier (heck, we’ll SEE my belly move eventually) but it was so nice for him to get to feel these early kicks.  I should also mention that his tone of voice when talking to baby girl was the same tone he uses when he talks to our cats…so cute to hear him use that affectionate voice.

Of course, then he says “I hope we didn’t hurt her by pressing on her.”  What a way to make me worry.  Especially since she hasn’t given me any big kicks since then.  I’ve felt her rolling a little bit but she is definitely not as active as she has been lately.  He’s got me thinking we hurt her in some way.  I searched online and it appears that we did not do anything that anyone else hasn’t done and everything is ok with them so I’ll have to assume that she’s fine in there.  Baby’s fine, baby’s fine, baby’s fine.

No big plans for the weekend but I’m taking Monday off to spend with the husband as it’s his 40th birthday.  We might go out to dinner with his sister Saturday night to celebrate.  We have the LG this weekend so we need to figure out something to do.  Our little town does not offer much.  I’m just looking forward to sleeping in and hanging out with my boys…while my little girl tags along oblivious to it all.  Hope you all have a great weekend!

10 comments:

newbie said...

You definitely didn't hurt her - you should feel how hard the ultrasonographers press down sometimes when the babies aren't cooperating. I know it's worrisome when the babies seem to move less, but trust me, next thing you know you'll be getting a strong kick in the belly! Congratulations, I remember when my husband first felt the baby kick...it was such a special moment!

Stacey said...

You certainly didn't hurt her :) And I was told once that when you don't really feel her for a while it's because she's turned and is kicking at your back and you don't feel that as strongly. No worries, soon you won't be able to miss it!

Sunflower said...

Aw -- that is such a sweet story about your hubby feeling her kick. What a wonderful precious moment.

someday-soon said...

Awww, what a great first =) My OB actually told me to push back on her when she had her bum pushed up under my ribs. Apparently they can bruise you pretty bad and she told me to push back on her and also use ice to make her move. So don't worry, you're little girl is doing great =)

Fran said...

Of course you didn't hurt her! You know one way would be for BJ to listen to your belly with his hear, we did this a lot with Oliver! Works better than the hand.

Love, Fran

EndoJourney said...

Best moment ever right?? So glad he got to feel her! Today we saw my belly moving and the look on Hubs' face was priceless. I can't wait for your husband to have more and more experiences like this with you and your baby girl!

Life Happens said...

What a special moment. Ah, how I missed that feeling of baby kicking inside. That's great that your husband got to feel baby kick.

Mommy-In-Waiting said...

Glad you both got to enjoy that special moment=)

Alex said...

I love hearing how guys react when they get to feel their babies. So special!

Augusta said...

very sweet moment with your husband. Thanks for sharing with us. And yes, baby is fine. I hope you feel completely reassured by now.