I only have 1 person on FB that keeps announcing pregnancies and babies and can't stop talking about how all of her kids (soon to be 8) are just the best blessing from God and how being a mommy is the greatest thing in the world and on and on....wretch. I have other "friends" that talk about activities for their kids and wish them happy b-days and post cute pictures. I don't mind these posts as much.
I just logged in and found out the sex and the name of the newest baby from this person. People can't stop raving about all her little angels and how much she is blessed with her gifts from God. Ok, I get it. And I know that children are gifts from God to be relished and doted on. But what a slap in the face.
Am I NOT blessed because I can't have babies? Do I NOT have any gifts because I can't get pregnant? I typed out this status update:
I might not have any kids, but I'm still blessed by God.
And then I erased it and logged out. I'm chicken shit to post anything like that. Mainly because she would know it's directed at her and I don't want to hurt her feelings. She can't help it that she is the most fertile person to walk this earth. And I know she's a good mom and loves her kids and they are great kids so she should be proud. Also, I'm not ready to "out" myself because I'm sure there would be questions as to why I would post such a thing and why don't I "just have a couple" so that I can find out what real blessings are? And so on and so forth.
Ugh....so frustrating.
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I wish you had sent in that comment!! But i understand not doing so ;). So tempting though.
((HUGS))
You are blessed!
I had to "hide" people on FB that talked about their kids too much...sorry you're going through this {{{HUGS}}}
I agree 100% with what you said. This kind of stuff has always bothered me, even before we started TTC and even before I started wanting children. It's as is people cease to exist and are taken over by being a parent of X or being a spouse of X.
Even if you would have posted that, she still probably wouldn't get it, unfortunately. Perhaps the "hide" option would be helpful.
(((HUGS)))
That is one thing that really upsets me when people go on like that. Of course kids are a blessing, but they aren't the only blessing from God, and I have a hard time accepting that they don't know that but that they are just preoccupied by their kids.
That and "you never know what love is until you're a mom". Really? I don't know what love is? I guess sticking by husband (and vice versa) in good times and bad isn't really what love is about...
I don't have a FB account, and almost every single blogger I "know" has posted about this issue with FB, so you can bet I'm not signing up anytime soon (ever)!!!
I agree with A -- the more I hear about how horrible FB is for IFers, the more I'm glad that I don't have an account!
Of course, it's hard to avoid people like this in real life, too. I'm so sorry you're having to deal with it!
ICLW
I feel this way too! FB is like our worst nightmare..if we are having a bad day and just want to make it worse, we can sign on to FB and see all the baby updates and pregnancy pics. Ugh its so hard :)
FB has some bad sides to it. I'm so sorry you had to to feel like you're not blessed for even a moment. You are though. Please know that Gog loves all of his children. That means you!!
take care
Oh my gosh, I meant God!!!
typos lol!
~ICLW
FB is a hard pill to swallow sometimes when you'r e going through IF. But you don't really have to endure it...just stick to IF blogs. There are so many to choose from as I'm sure you're aware from your sidebar. I am a new follower & just added your link. I'm an IF survivor and just started blogging to support others. I would love for you to check it out! Happy ICLW!
ICLW
I only use my Facebook for professional contacts, so I publish very little personal information. When I didn't have a child it was quite difficult to be inundated with baby pics, but you already know it's not personal.
I totally agree.....I avoid FB like the plague now! I'm so thankful I didn't mention I was preggo a few months ago because I'd hate to explain that I had a m/c while everyone else is posting their ultrasound photos. Every time I go on there I get depressed.
Ugh. Facebook is something I seriously can't handle on most days. It doesn't mean you are any less blessed if you don't have children. I am so sorry you are going through this. *Hugs*
ICLW
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Could you just hide her? She'll never know!
I say protect yourself first -
You ARE blessed...and a good rant every now & again is well worth it. We're with you!
Sometimes people can be so insensitive...they just don't understand. Would it help you if you block her posts from showing up? Hang in there!
ICLW
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